Sex plays a pivotal role in a relationship so it’s important that both you and your partner have the best shared experiences possible. This doesn’t just involve the actual act of sexual intercourse, but also the build up to it. By building anticipation before sex you can keep it fresh, fun and intimate. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be looking at a variety of different ways to make sex more exciting, but for now, let’s start with foreplay.
According to studies, women find it harder to climax during intercourse. One reason for this is a lack of foreplay before sexual intercourse. Foreplay doesn’t just start in the bedroom, it’s something that can begin and continue throughout the day. The key thing to remember is to keep your partner wanting more. This builds desire and curiosity which will make them crave you. The eventual sexual encounter is then more intense and satisfying. Think of the old cliché of a woman dropping a pencil to flash the ass. This is laying the foundation for later on and keeps the other person eagerly anticipating the next move.
Less can certainly be more and a simple kiss or suggestive smile can go a long way. Whether you’re at the start of your encounters or you’re regularly enjoying each other’s company, wanting something is half the fun. Part of this is remembering to keep your independence. It’s easy to get caught up with texting each other and wanting to meet up constantly but by keeping your interests and hobbies separate, you create mystery. Absence does, after all, makes the heart grow fonder.
Once you’ve mastered the build-up, the next thing to focus on is the actual physical foreplay. Skin to skin contact while cuddling naked is not only erotic but also intimate. Caressing one another can also affect your hormones and help reduce the build-up of stress. Exploring one another’s body adds to intimacy and leads on to more intense sexual play. Gently stroking a sensitive area, such as behind the ear, the nipples or the lower back can make your lover shiver with excitement. Make sure to ask them what they enjoy and indulge them. Massages are a great way to raise intimacy and lower stress. Head massages in particular are known to increase chemicals such as Oxycontin which help keep us calm and relaxed.
Uniforms & Role-Playing
Although not for everybody, adding a little bit of role-play or dress up in the bedroom will keep your love life fresh. Thinking up new and interesting scenarios or pushing the boundaries can build intimacy and excitement, while also making the experience memorable for one another. This doesn’t have to involve elaborate stories and costumes, a simple item such as a pair of boots, a pair of glasses or a tie can be just as effective as the whole getup.
What’s important to keep in mind is that each partner will have their own sexual fantasies and fetishes. If you’re embarrassed about letting out your wildest sexual desire, keep it slow at first to test the water and gauge your partner’s reactions. You may also find that you feel a little silly and this is perfectly normal. Ensure you talk to your partner about your reservations and reassure them that they are more important to you than a fantasy. You might find that you need some ideas or want to see a scenario play out. Erotic videos and novels are great tools for inspiration that you can both enjoy.